After two years of dating Mark, he finally sealed the deal! Mark proposed April of 2013 and we tied the knot January of 2014. Back then, I actually had no idea what being engaged feels like, so here’s a list of my experiences – the fun and even the awkward ones days after Mark popped the big question.
IT’S ALL ABOUT THE RING
Days after posting on Facebook that Mark and I were officially engaged, everyone wanted to see my hand. Good thing my nails are always clean.
THE WEDDING DATE
Everyone wanted to know when the wedding will be right then and there even if you still had no idea where to start on your planning.
THE PROPOSAL STORY
You would probably tell this story like a hundred times.
All couples have a budget set on their wedding, but the big surprise is – you would always go beyond the budget. I had no idea weddings are so expensive.When I got engaged, I really wanted to invest in the wedding business! I couldn’t believe that a wedding host would cost as much as Php 15,000.00!
YOU’RE PLANNER IS A LIFESAVER
You would definitely need a planner and post its in all colors! Months before the wedding, most, if not all of our weekends were already blocked. Seminars, Food Tasting, Meeting with your Suppliers, the lists are just endless.
People you hadn’t seen in decades would want to be invited. I accidentally bump into a college acquaintance when I was in a mall, and she asked if she could go into our wedding. I just smiled and told her I haven’t created our guest list yet. It was kinda awkward, really. Months after, I had learned to tell people that we have limited number of seats and we cannot invite everyone we know even if we wanted to. It’s a good thing that people understand the situation we are in.
LEARN HOW TO SAY NO
You just need to be firm and tough sometimes. My parents wanted to invite their friends to our wedding because they’re afraid that their friends would feel bad not being invited. I said yes to a couple of people, but needed to decline some of their request. I discussed with them how much the cost of the wedding will be and if they insist on inviting people, Mark and I would need to apply for a bank loan just to grant their request. Would they want us to start in the red line after getting married? Its okay to politely say No to your parents as this involves your future with your husband. Just talk to them and soon, they’d understand.
THE MAGIC Ds
Two magic D’s you would learn after getting engaged – DIY and DIVISORIA! This will help you save a lot, plus it’s a fun experience too!
BREATHE. RELAX. ENJOY.
Being engaged is a once in a lifetime event too, so it’s best to enjoy it. Do not be too hard on yourselves planning for the big day. I remembered Mark and I got burnt out with all the planning that we decided we needed a wedding break. A weekend without any wedding planning involved. No wedding talks, no wedding appointments, just us! It was a break both of us needed.
Being engaged made me feel so loved, not only by my fiancé but by the people around me. A lot of people were supporting us all throughout the wedding preps. I actually had two surprise bridal showers from my girlfriends which was a lot of fun!
So if you’re engage now and you’re soon to wed, just seize the moment and enjoy everything! When you look back, you just couldn’t imagine how you were able to surpass all the planning and chaos, believe me!
Enjoy the wedding preps! Oh and Congratulations and Best Wishes in advanced! 🙂